Sorry it’s really wordy, but I wanted to make sure i wasn’t being too vague, but at the same time I also feel like i was not thorough enough with some of these topics. Either way, this is just all from my standpoint so feel free to correct me if i got something wrong. or if you have any questions feel free to ask, but just keep in mind i am only one person, and not an all-knowing encyclopedia so i may not always have answers for everyone and some things are better left answered by other people.
Hello Ang, I’m Jester.
Before I begin I’m going to state that I’m a pretty dark skinned Puerto Rican guy who lives on the cusp of poverty and has dealt with homelessness, losing parents to drugs and jail, and a shit ton of racism through my life. I’m doing this cause I’m tired of being accused by people of being some white guy/girl just for having a different opinion than them.
1: “Do people on tumblr hate white/cis/straight people?” Really? You think this is not something that happens? You somehow speak for everybody? Cause I’ve seen some genuine hate directed towards all three groups, as well as suicide encouragement. And amongst my own kind I’ve seen whites get bullied and physically beaten just for being white.
2: Posts being made on a personal blog does not matter when people tag their posts so that others find it. When posts get thousands of notes, its obviously not something thats private.
For me, how often I deal with discrimination? A lot. Not for being straight or cis (and obviously not for being white) but I’ve dealt with racism and descrimination for being what I am. I’ve had relationships ended because of white parents not wanting me to date their white daughters. I had a cop pull me out of class because her dad read his daughters diary and found out I been at their house while he wasn’t there and was going to have me arrested for trespassing if I continued my relationship with her.
So some people would think I’d be justified if I started venting hate against white people, correct? Well some people would obviously need to grow up because I’m also aware enough that not all white people are racists and there are many times where me and my mother would have gone hungry or been unable to pay bills if not for the help of one of her white friends. It was the protection of a white teacher that made middle school bearable after I was bullied horribly for being one of the few Puerto Ricans at a predominantly black school.
There is nothing wrong with venting, but thats what read mores and not tagging your posts are. And you can at least try to be self aware enough not to use hateful language that would harm people who have not or would not do harm to you.
3: Hate can be justified, but blind hate against people who aren’t/haven’t actively harming/harmed you is not. And as somebody who is underprivileged in a lot of ways, I can understand what oppression and unfair treatment is. I was angry at white people but being expected to use specific and none general language so that I don’t hurt or alienate the white people who have done nothing but be kind to me is not the same thing as bottling up my emotions.
I live in a country that is pretty racist in its treatment of people like me and I fucking rant and vent about the system and the struggles my people face. I don’t bottle any emotion. I can raise awareness, I can fight against oppression, without being a gigantic asshole to people.
4: How the hell do you assume that if somebodies feelings are hurt that it most obviously be because of something they did? If somebody accuses me of racism when I’m not, I’m going to be mad and I’m going to defend myself. Just because a minority of any kind makes an accusation does not mean that they are automatically right and the accused is automatically wrong. I hate this process where by the oppressed are put on a pedestal where they can do no wrong. No matter what you say or do, you are somehow always the hero and that’s bullshit.
5: If you are constantly a dick to people, why the hell would they want to give you rights? Yes you deserve rights but we live in an unequal world and if you constantly dehumanize the so called oppresors and act like a whiney, angry, petulant asshole regardless of what people do, all you are doing is making it hard for people to sympathise with you. I’ve seen people who would otherwise be predisposed to helping the causes be violently turned away for being who they were.
6: Nobody should expect you to be an educator but there are a lot of people with blogs dedicated to an issue who still refuse to educate the uninitiated, often in very violent ways. And no not every answer is just a google thing away because every social issue has varying groups with varying answers.
Maybe somebody wants to learn about feminism. They go to a blog who speaks predominantly about feminist issues to learn and are turned away. Said person goes elsewhere and ends up being taken in by TERFs and ends up either becoming a trans hating feminist or is turned away from feminism in general because they ended up dipping into a particularly toxic side of it.
7: Most people do question what they do when they actually engage in civil conversation with others on issues. You’re dismissive and outright hateful attitude to those you deem oppressors just puts them on the defensive and less likely to want to hear what you have to say. And you should maybe take your own advice and figure whether or not your own actions are themselves problematic.
8: Bullying does occur. Not just against cis/straight/white people but with those who don’t tow the line on the general opinion. People are harrassed for benign ignorance, encouraged to kill themselves, or are misgendered because just cause somebody is straight and white does not mean they are trans. You can have people who are cis/queer, cis/straight/non-white.
I’ve spent my whole life dealing with bullies and bigots and your post has done nothing but defend the actions of people who engage in bullying and bigotry.